Put on your Parent Cap and C.A.P.E.R.

It is natural to look toward the apparent cause of disturbance or distress when some aspect of family life is out of balance. Parents often think that if they can just get their child to change, all will be calm, peaceful, joyful, easier – or any of the adjectives that parents hope for when there is chaos in the home. The first suggestion is

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From Concerned Parent to Curious Detective

The responsibility of raising children raises concerns. There are the daily issues like our child’s sleep, nutrition and safety. There are larger concerns of health and well-being that include our child’s development, temperament, resilience, or happiness. How can we, as parents, discern what our child needs, especially if they are off-track in some way, whether that be developmentally or with behaviors. A Curious Parent

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Help! My Toddler is a Picky Eater!

Almost all toddlers could be described as picky eaters. New foods often have disturbing tastes. If the child is used to breastmilk, formula, or sweet-tasting foods, it can be quite a transition to eat foods that awaken the other tastes. Alert! Alert! Strange taste in mouth! Toddlers are also new to making decisions and experimenting with control. One thing toddlers can control is what

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Give the Gift of Open-Ended Toys

Look at the adorable Minion. There are so many cute movie-themed toys. Or toys with given names and personalities. Or toys that do something when you push a button. Toys that flash and move and give temporary delight. They all scream, “Buy Me” and children cry, “I want them.” Irresistible? Seemingly so. The message to the parent is, “Don’t deprive your child. If you

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Five Things to Say to Your Child

Have you ever experienced any of the following? (Or overheard them with another family?) Your child refuses to listen and continues to pour syrup on the kitchen floor even as you are yelling, “STOP!!” Your child tells you how awful dinner is after you cooked all afternoon. Your child put his socks in the hamper. “Good job.” Your child finishes breakfast. “Good job.” Your child

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It’s Not Just WHAT Children Watch…

Many parents I know are on “High Media Alert.” Hyper-vigilant, reading articles for info, monitoring their kids as much as possible, asking other parents about limits, forming and reforming a strategy, and sometimes, freaking out. No other generation of parents has had to deal with an entity that was this unknown when they grew up. Sure, nobody wanted their kids playing pool in River

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Share and Share Alike…Or?

Sharing. Taking turns. A child’s favorite toy is snatched up by another. How often does it end in tears and anger? Are small children too young to learn to share? In a recent article by Very Bloggy Beth, Why I Don’t Make My Son Share, she writes of her pre-school’s sharing policy in which a child can keep a toy as long as they

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Gun Play and Boys

From the moment my son could grasp, he held a stick in his hand. As he grew, the stick became integral to his play. It took on the life of a sword, a knife, a light saber, a spear. I thought of these as healthy ways for him to express childhood curiosity towards power and and aggression. But then, the stick became a gun.

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Help Your Child Peacefully Fall Asleep

My son was 2 when we began to help him transition into his own big boy bed. At first he used our assistance to fall asleep – lullabies, holding hands, or gentle back rubs. It then changed to where he just needed us in the room. Today, I found this scrap of paper and it reminded me of how sweet the words were we

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15 Things Successful Parents Do

  . . . or what’s really going on with parents we wish we were like ~~~~~~~~~~ 1. They See Their Child’s Misbehavior as a Good Problem When their child misbehaves, successful parents see this as a good problem. The misbehavior tells the parent exactly what the child needs to learn – no more guess work. They stop their child’s world and help them learn what’s expected

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